Description
If your marriage has detoured off the road to Happily Ever After, You can put it back on the track. And you can do it by yourself …even if you’ve despaired of things ever getting better… or if your spouse won’t agree to counseling…or if the two of you can’t even sit down together and discuss your problems.
You’ll begin to notice improvement almost immediately because, contrary to popular myth, one person can make a difference. If you change, so will your mate s response to you-and your marriage will get better. Happily Ever After shows you how.
While there have been other books on marriage, never before has a respected therapist-with seventeen years’ experience counseling couples, individuals, and families-been able to duplicate so successfully the very procedures she uses in her private practice. Through the same gently probing questions she asks the men and women who come to her office, Doris Helmering helps you examine your relationship. You will:
- Uncover your Secret Game Plan (every marriage has one) and learn how it may be destroying intimacy with your mate
- Learn what script messages you are still carrying with you from childhood
- Discover the 36 behaviors couples are most likely to fight about-and how to avoid them
- Find out which of the four basic roles – Caretaker, Passive-Taker, Corrector, or Passive Aggressive-you have assumed in your relationship and how you can overcome the destructive patterns common to these roles.
Almost everyone falls into one of these four categories and behaves accordingly. Helmering shows you how to determine your own personality type and how to use this knowledge to save your marriage.
You’ll also learn to interpret the hidden agenda in your partner’s words- and in your own…find out how to ask questions that open communication – instead of blocking it…and discover the often intricate psychological games the two of you may be playing with one another-and why.
Every step of the way there are quizzes to take…questions to answer…tasks to perform…”homework assignments” to complete. This is not a book about therapy; it is therapy. Reading it is a process that will involve your active participation as it stretches you…challenges you…at times causes you discomfort…and ultimately leads to that special joy that comes with having a good marriage. Open its pages and begin to experience it…and get back on the road to Happily Ever After.
Hard cover. 225 pages. In good preloved condition. A fascinating read!